Hello, please forgive my rambling I’ll get a hang of it
Let me introduce myself . . .
My name is roo I am 29 years old, female, married since October 19th 2019 & I have some disabilities . . .
At age 3 it was found that I had congenital hip dysplasia, scoliosis ect. I have had many operations since & at 17 I had a hip replacement.
I couldn’t be more thankful for my specialist & all that has been done. As well as my mother for being there every step of the way (I mention my mother because we are very close & I do rely on her alot for help)
My husband and I currently live with my mother and 2 of 3 of my siblings in a 3 bedroom finished basement home. My husband and I were looking for a place of our own earlier on in our relationship but when we were unable to find something for so long we decided to save money and stay with mom. Currently we are looking for a home with an in-law suite because. . . .
Due to my medical issues & nothing getting better but worse we have decided to stay close to my mother but still allow us to ofcourse be on our own. This is not only the best decision due to my medical issues & husband worldly constantly but because we are planning to have a child
1. I will need a csection
2. Need another replacement sooner than later therefore I need to have ant children before hand
3. I’m getting old lol
My husband and I had planned to try in June after a convention as we cosplay and I would have liked to have one last night of partying as well as have the birth sometime in March for my Nana that passed last year. Her birthday was in March. however with this pandemic that isn’t happening now
Along with we had a trip planned for all of April, half of it on our own then my youngest brother and my husband’s friend come the second half nut that was cancelled for now. . . .
Sooo our plans have changed. We want to still go on our trip but because I would have liked to have tried some Japanese alcohols we will have to make this trip a 2 part
Our plan is to go on our trip for 2 weeks as soon as flights are open again and then again just my husband and I next April for 2 weeks.
This means our best plan of action is to try after my current period so that it also allows me a decent 6 weeks to heal before our trip
I understand some may say, how could you leave anew born and so on and so on. But I have absolutely no problem leaving my hopefully healthy baby with my mother. She is literally a second mom to anyone I’ve known in my childhood & even now.
My husband was kicked out or constantly fighting with his father when we worked and lived with him so my mother took him in
My sister’s bf was homeless due to family issues and my mother took him in
My mother went to school for childcare and development but above all else she’s my mother and raised me. Why wouldn’t I feel comfortable leaving a baby with her
Either way I also had planned to breast feed & pump to give not only my husband but mother and sister the opportunity to feed a baby not only cause it would make them happy but again due to my disability I will need some time to deal with pain & movement ect.
Anyway. . . . As if my story wasn’t all over the place to begin with. . . . This is the start of my motherhood plan & I hope to be able to connect with other people be it mother’s or not who also have disabilities to help eachother with day to day life, hardships, happy days and more
I’m not on any medication, I’ve been taking victims for a long while. I’m trying to lose some weight before I become overly pregnant due to excess weight effecting my body more
I’ve sadly not been able to go to the doctor with this pandemic so I really don’t know much currently.
Fingers crossed
Thank you for sticking through this crazy post lol ♥️
Dysplasia & Motherhood 